Sex positions that allow you to hold your partner’s waist for deeper penetration

Intercourse is one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner, and you deserve to have an incredible experience. Do you know what makes good sex great? Well, there are many things, but one of them includes pulling your partner close by grabbing their waist or hips. This is so hot as it allows for deep penetration, leaving both partners gasping as they achieve the big O.

We speak to Pallavi Barnwal, sexuality and intimacy coach and founder of GetIntimacy, author of the book '69+ Saucy positions and techniques to spice up your intimate life' to know more. So if you’re looking to spice up your sex life with this exciting move, then here are a few positions to try out. 

Fair warning, deep penetration might not be for everyone. So, if it’s not something you’ve tried before, be sure to use lube (lots of it), relax, and enjoy! 

M Missionary

Want to enjoy deeper penetration and animalistic sex in this position? Here's how. The receiving partner lies on their back with their legs spread. The penetrating partner then sits between their partner’s legs, with their knees bent and apart. Then, the latter pulls their partner towards them to make an M shape, holding their waist or hips to go deeper. It’s an easy transition from missionary but much more intense and exciting. 

On the edge down

This position not only enables deeper penetration but also allows the penetrating partner to (possibly) stay erect for a longer period while promoting clitoral stimulation for the female partner. All you need is a surface such as a desk, sofa, or recliner. The receiving partner lies on their back with their butt on the edge of the surface while their legs hang over the edge and their palms on the edge for support. The penetrating partner positions themselves between their partner’s legs and holds on to their hips for balance and deep thrusts. 

Woman on top

This is a classic position that allows the partner with a penis to last longer. It also gives them a fantastic view of their partner, whilst allowing for a lot of hip and waist holding by both partners.  

Cowgirl

The partner being penetrated gets on their knees and climbs on top, facing their partner, with one leg on either side of their hip. They then lower themselves slowly onto their partner’s penis or dildo. Once in position, they can rest their hands on their thighs or stretch them onto their partner’s chest or hips, and rock their hips back and front in a figure-eight motion to stimulate them. This position is a favourite for women because it gives them complete control over the angle, pace, and stimulation along with clitoris stimulation as well. 

There are a few variations to this position as well. For instance, you can lean forward in, allowing the penetrating partner to go deeper than the normal cowgirl position, by gripping your hips or waist. It’s a slow and romantic position and great for building more intimate connections with each other. You can also try the reverse cowgirl position where the penetrating partner gets to enjoy the amazing view of their partner’s back, while the partner on top bends forward to show off their butt. 

Lap dance

For this position, you need a bench or chair without arms that the penetrating partner can sit on with the other person facing and sitting on them. Then partner on top supports their weight against the chair, or theirs or their partner’s thighs. They could also use their knees to move up and down or have their partner hold them by the hips (an extremely hot position to do so) and grind slowly in a circle on their penis/dildo. 

Lotus

The partner getting penetrated starts straddling their partner, facing them, with one leg on either side of their hips. They then lower themselves onto their penis or dildo while sitting on their lap. Once in position, the receiving partner wraps their legs around the other. You and your partner can move closer as if squeezing each other and being held by the waist or hips only makes things hotter. If the partner on top is a woman, she can touch her clitoris or use a toy to stimulate it. You can also stimulate their anus if they enjoy anal play.  

Lotus with cowgirl

Why have sex in one position when you can include another one in it too? Here, the penetrating partner sits in bed (with a pillow behind their back) and crosses their legs or has them extended. The other person has one leg on either side of their partner’s hips and rides them on their knees while facing them. They can put their arms around their partner’s neck while the latter grabs them by the hips to pull them closer. The partner on top can move by pushing themselves back and forth using the strength provided by their pinned feet. The woman can use grinding motions to stimulate her clitoris. If her partner leans back a little, it is a great position for G-spot stimulation too. It is a moderately intense position for many men, so they may be able to last longer than usual.

From behind

Doggy

The most animalistic sex position ever wouldn’t be as hot if the penetrating partner didn't hold the other person by their hips or waist. The penetrating partner kneels behind their partner facing them with the knees placed in the space between their knees. After inserting your penis or dildo in them, hold onto their hips as you move yours away from and toward them. The person penetrating can scratch their partner’s back, and grab or pull their hair from the back to make it more intense. Should the person being penetrated be a female, she—along with being held by the waist, can engage in some clitoral stimulation by touching herself down there.

Standing doggy

This is a position that you could try out at the edge of a bed, chair, or couch or when you’re having shower sex standing up. The position has all the benefits of a typical doggy but is pretty tough for couples with a height 

Cowboy with doggy

The receiver gets on their forearms and knees to lie flat on their stomach. The receiver sits on their knees (their butt will be behind their partner’s thighs). They can place their hands on their partner’s hips and thrust inwards and back (only deeper thanks to the grip). It’s an amazing position as it gives the penetrating partner an amazing view of their partner’s butt and better anal play. With the traditional doggy position being very demanding, men avoid it as lasting longer is quite difficult. However, this version allows them to stay in control while enjoying doggy and lasting longer in bed.

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Inputs from the book '69+ Saucy positions and techniques to spice up your intimate life' by Khushboo Bist and Pallavi Barnwal

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