How to deal with imposter syndrome in your 20s

Ever feel like you've somehow tricked your way into success? Like everyone's about to discover you're a big phoney? That's nothing but imposter syndrome talking. And while it's not a real syndrome (you're not sick!), it is quite common to have these thoughts, especially in your 20s. Every now and then, the world can throw a lot at you—a new job, moving overseas, maintaining relationships, figuring out who you are—and it's natural to doubt yourself sometimes. But there’s nothing to worry about. And if you're still struggling to overcome imposter syndrome, then here are some ways you can deal with it. 

Know that you're not alone

You have to understand that almost everyone has felt this way at some point or the other. Your heroes, idols, and even the most successful people have had their doubts about their progress and whether or not they deserve it. It's all part of being human. So remind yourself that you’re not alone in this. 

Focus on the positive aspects

Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts, celebrate your wins! Write down your accomplishments, no matter how small, and celebrate each one of them. Did you crush a presentation? Ace that exam you were dreading? Supported a friend in need? Give yourself a pat on the back, you've earned it!

Fake it till you make it

Sounds cliché, right? But sometimes pretending to be confident can actually trick your brain into feeling it. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak up; you'll be surprised at how powerful you feel!

Focus on progress, not perfection

Stressing over perfection does absolutely no good. It just leads to anxiety, making room for more mistakes. Instead, give it your best shot, and if you do make a mistake, learn from it and keep moving forward.

Talk it out

Bottling things up will only make it worse. Instead, find a trusted friend, family member, or therapist to chat with rather than suffer in silence. Talking to someone you trust can help you see things more clearly as well as help you feel supported.

Be kind to yourself

Last but not least, cut yourself some slack! You wouldn't talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself, right? Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding that you would offer your neat and dear ones.

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