Your 101 guide to building intimacy with your partner in a long distance relationship

Long-distance relationships come with their own set of obstacles and limitations. It can be hard not to see your boo for a long time, and it feels harder when on some days, all you want is a tight hug and a kiss on the forehead, and you don’t get it. But long-distance relationships they aren’t impossible and definitely not all that bad; you know what they say: distance makes the heart grow fonder. We live in an age and time where being in a long-distance relationship has become infinitely easier, and there are loads of ways to build intimacy while being thousands of miles apart (emotionally and physically). Here’s a list of what we think are some of the best ways to be close to your partner even when you are seven seas apart. 

Go beyond the virtual date night 

Planning a date night once a week can do wonders, especially when a few hundred miles separate you from your better half. Turn a virtual movie night up a notch. Pick a theme for the evening, for example, Gatsby (or any of your favourite movies), have themed snacks, and you can even dress up for the night. Although it’s virtual, it would make for a memorable night. If you’re in the mood to go beyond the movie night, you can also send each other DIY meal kits and cook a meal together over a video call. 

Have phone sex (lots) 
Physical intimacy can be hard to achieve when you’re away from your beau. And it's harder when your love language is touch. But fret not; there’s a lot you can do over a simple phone call. Sexting, or even virtual sex, is a great place to start. Always communicate what you want and ensure that your partner is comfortable with everything you have decided to try. You can also turn up the heat by using a couple’s vibrator that your partner can control from anywhere in the world. How’s that for building sexual intimacy? We’d also definitely recommend creating a sex playlist to make things exciting. 

Swap belongings 

If you miss your partner too much, then we have the perfect solution for you. When you finally do meet them, take one of their belongings home with you. It could be anything—from a sweatshirt, to their pillow or anything else that would be a good reminder of them. Also, be prepared to give them one of your belongings, too (no matter how much you adore it). For me, this is more of an excuse to steal my partner’s hoodie…

Remind your partner that you love them 

Sometimes, in a long-term and long-distance relationship, we often grow so used to being with them and going through life itself that we often need some reassurance. Tell your partner you love them as often as you want—be open and express exactly what you feel. And maybe don’t just stick to the regular ‘I love you’ over a phone call (though that may be cute on some days). Surprise them by sending a flower bouquet or their favourite chocolate, write a short note (or even an email) and tell them how much they mean to you and more. 

Be honest about your needs 
Finally, honest communication is the most important and fundamental rule of building a strong and intimate relationship. When you can't meet the person, communication over texts and phone calls can often lead to misunderstandings and even conflict. At such times, be honest about what you’re thinking and feeling, what you need and want to try, and arrive at a middle ground.