Little things that make you feel special in a relationship

When you get into a relationship, everything starts to feel wonderful. Even the long, tiresome commute to work cannot wipe that smile off your face. A cute text from your boo can instantly turn your mood around, and life, in general, feels great. All those compliments, the validation, and the affection keep our happy hormones at an all-time high. But that's only the honeymoon phase. Once the fog settles, you're left to face the real challenges of being in a relationship. Maintaining that initial spark, after the honeymoon phase is over, is the ultimate test in any romantic relationship. But relationships are so much more than sparks. It's about feeling loved, secure, and at peace with your partner. And it's not grand gestures but small acts of love and care that go a long way in building that level of intimacy.

Here are a few examples of small gestures that make a meaningful impact. 

Make each other feel connected, even in social settings

Attending (and occasionally hosting) events as a couple is a significant part of all relationships. And while the social norm requires you to mingle with your friends and/or family at these gatherings, you mustn't forget about your significant other. Simple acts like stealing glances from across the room, re-filling each other's drinks, or sitting down together to grab a bite can help you feel connected. These subtle gestures are a reminder that no matter where you are, you're still their favourite person. 

Remember the little things 

Sure it's important to remember birthdays and anniversaries (duh!); but it's also just as important to remember the little things—their favourite book, their comfort food, quirky habits, etc. Imagine casually mentioning your craving for a red velvet cupcake, only for your partner to surprise you with one soon after. How amazing would that be? It's not about the fact that they got you a cupcake, but that they remembered it. 

Planning date nights 

Sure, staying in is cute and comfortable. But planning a special date night is so much more exciting. It shows you care and that you aren't taking your partner for granted. You could go for the classics—a dinner date at a nice restaurant (even better if it was one they've mentioned recently). Or you could opt for something more elaborate inspired by their hobbies, like a pottery-making class or a wine tasting. Pro tip, always dress up for your partner and be sure to compliment them often (this goes for both partners!). 

Share your dreams and plans 

It's important to talk about your future with your partner, especially if you're in a committed relationship. Now this doesn't mean you start discussing marriage plans (unless you want to, of course). However, it is essential to talk about other things such as your career plans, potentially moving overseas or to a different city, and your personal ideals when it comes to your future together including your thoughts on marriage, having kids, and so on. Discussing these things can help strengthen your bond and bring you closer as a couple. 

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