10 women in their 30s give dating advice to those in their 20s

It's a learning curve, and they’ve been through it.

By Bani Sachar

16 September, 2024

10 women in their 30s give dating advice to those in their 20s

The dating landscape has evolved over the past few years, but there are some things that never change. Of course, you get a better understanding of it as you meet more people and try new experiences, but it takes time. Those of us in our 20s can be quite clueless, and that’s why I reached out to a few women in their 30s to share their wisdom with the rest of us. No matter how old you are or what your circumstances may be, we could all use a dating guru to tell us if we’re looking for love in all the wrong places, ignoring blatant red flags, or allowing ourselves to accept bad behaviour because of low self-esteem. While every woman and relationship is unique, some dating advice is universal for all women.

Scroll down to read some dating advice from 10 women in their 30s for those in their 20s.

“Don’t put walls up and label yourself void. If pure and healthy love walks into your life, receive it openly.” – Ayesha, 35

“Don’t let a bad experience or heartbreak change the way you love. I wish I didn't let my trauma hold me back from new experiences with new people.” – Aalia, 31

“If you are having second thoughts about sex, don’t have it. It’s not worth the post-coital regret, and you deserve to feel sure about intimacy.” – Medha, 30

“If you are going to have a casual relationship with someone, choose your partner wisely. Mutual respect and trust are still needed, even if it isn’t a romantic relationship.” – Sheila, 34

“Sex is something everyone should enjoy, so don’t be afraid to communicate if there’s something you want to explore. It can feel weird to be open with a partner, especially if the relationship is new, but it’s always important to remember that nobody has the ability to read minds and that includes the person you are sharing your body with.” – Mira, 38

“Before you get into a relationship, make sure you are happy with your partner as they are. If you can’t accept them as they are, let them go.” – Binny, 32

“Protect your relationship and protect your partner. Don’t allow other parties to have too much of a say in how your relationship should work. Most people mean well but prying eyes and unsolicited opinions can tear a relationship apart” – Heer, 35.

“Someone who loves you will NOT mistreat you. Know your worth and don’t waste your time on the wrong people” – Ria, 37.

“Go with your gut. Sometimes you might find yourself in a situation that appears to be a really good thing on paper. All the right elements are there and there’s nothing seemingly wrong about it. But somewhere inside you, there’s a feeling of hesitancy, and eventually the thing will blow up in your face” – Kinjal, 36.

“Don’t date someone who’s overly jealous or possessive. At best, this is annoying. At worst, it’s gaslighting. If someone doesn’t trust you, don’t change your behaviour in order to appease them. Take it as a sign and run” – Robin, 33.

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