Mutual Masturbation: Take intimacy to a whole new level by masturbating together

The pandemic and the resulting lockdown taught the world a lot of things when it comes to sex. With many of us separated from our loved ones (great if you weren’t) and virtual calls being the only medium to share intimacy, we learnt an important lesson. Mutual masturbation can be a thing—a very hot and sexy thing. Being vulnerable in front of your partner is a way to strengthen your sexual intimacy in ways you couldn’t even imagine.  

Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or are with your partner, mutual masturbation sets you out on a journey of exploration and you get to know what your partner likes, dislikes, and what their sexual needs are. You connect on a deeper level and experience pleasure together.

Why mutual masturbation is helpful 

If you and your partner have had a long day and are too tired to have sex, but still want to get intimate, few things are better than mutual masturbation. It is a great solution when you don’t have a condom on you; it's a sure-shot way to indulge in some sexual intimacy without there being any risk. It also teaches you that pleasure should be the sole focus of sex and that penetrative sex is not the only alternative. Mutual masturbation is a great way to build sexual tension before you get to the act. It also helps you learn what gives your lover pleasure and vice versa. 

Positions to try

Side to side: Trying mutual masturbation for the first time can be nerve-racking for many couples. Thus, the side-to-side position is good to begin with. If making eye contact with your partner feels overwhelming, this position will help you avoid it. To still stay connected, you can hold hands or put a leg over them.

Facing each other: Face them, spread your legs, and stimulate yourself like you would do if you were alone. It may feel awkward but it's a great way to feel closer to your partner.  

Standing up: Stand facing each other, and rub/stroke yourself. 

Girl on top: It’s just like the cowgirl sex position, but here, instead of having sex, you’re masturbating.

How to mutually masturbate over a video call

You can sit and lean back facing the camera so that your partner can see you up close. Get ready to stroke or finger yourself, or get on your knees on the bed or the floor, arch your back, thrust your hips and go for it. It’s sure to drive them crazy. You could also stand for them to enjoy your entire body as you go about stroking or fingering yourself. 

On a video call, the act is not the only important factor, other details like what you are wearing also play a part to turn up the heat. You could also set the mood by sexting before starting. Talk dirty to each other and make sure you know how your partner is feeling (and vice versa). Set their pulse racing by talking about how you’re feeling while touching each other and let them know what you would do to them if you were together (know what they’d like to do to you as well).