Mutual masturbation will make your sex life hotter, here’s how

Touching yourself is one of the best things out there—it feels so good, and helps you discover and connect with your body at the same time. Plus, it’s a big stress reliever (it’s all in those happy hormones release). But, what if you got your partner in on the fun, too? And no, we don’t mean by having sex, but by masturbating in each other’s presence. 

When you let your partner see you engage in an act that’s usually extremely intimate and personal, you get to connect with them in a whole new way. Not to mention, both of you get to see exactly how the other likes to pleasure themselves and take notes. 

Ahead, discover what exactly mutual masturbation involves, and how you can switch it up. 

What is mutual masturbation?

It’s all in the name—you and your partner masturbate in the presence of each other. Either one of you touches themselves while the other one watches, or they touch themselves, too, while their eyes are on you. The point is, you get off on your own without their help!

How do I mutually masturbate with my partner?

Show each other how you like it

This is the most straightforward way to take mutual masturbation with your boo. You tell your partner to get comfortable and ask them to watch you closely as you please yourself. To make things spicier, you can indulge in dirty talk, tell them what you’re doing or get them to describe what they are watching. Vocalising exactly what’s happening can be quite sexy. You can also bring a bit of BDSM into play—order them that they’re not allowed to touch themselves while they see you get it on. 

Give them a hot, sneaky peek

If you’re into exhibitionism (you like showing it off) or your partner is into voyeurism (they like watching), another hot variation to try is to let your partner leave the room for a few minutes while you get comfy, put on something sexy (or get naked), light candles, play moody music in the background, and then, touch yourself—basically, set the scene as if you’re alone and no one’s watching you. Then, let your partner take a peek through the door—the feeling of watching something they aren’t really supposed to will make things hotter for both of you. And if you’re feeling extra adventurous, blindfold yourself and let your inhibitions go. 

Add toys to the mix 

It’s also the perfect opportunity to bring sex toys into the bedroom. You can show your partner exactly how you like to use the vibrator—from the pressure setting you like to the exact location where you like it. It’s all about educating them about your preferences!