Here’s why you should be scheduling sex

You know what your sex life is missing? A proper schedule. No, we don’t mean simply discussing how often or when exactly you’ll have sex (though that’s part of it), we mean actually, physically keying the deed onto your calendar. We know what you’re thinking, “won’t scheduling sex make it seem like a chore?” Well, when we schedule dates with our girlfriends and things like art or dance classes, they don’t feel like a chore, do they? Scheduling sex helps you make your partner and spending quality time a priority, which can quickly become an overlooked part of your relationship if you have busy lives. Plus, how often you schedule sex is totally up to the two of you; decide the frequency based on your routines and your sex drives. Our tip? Don’t plan a romp close to a stressful event because that will instantly turn you off.

Ahead, discover how scheduling sex could make your relationship hotter. 

It gives you something to look forward to

Much like dinner with friends or going out for a movie always makes you feel happy and excited, scheduling sex gives you something to look forward, especially if your day otherwise feels bland. You know what’s in the waiting and what you’re going to get since both of you are aligned. Of course, this doesn’t mean consent is not necessary when you get down to it, and either of you can always say no if you’re not feeling up to it.

It builds anticipation, aka the best foreplay there is 

You know what’s inarguably the best part about scheduling sex? It’s the fact that you’ll spend the entire day, or even week, thinking about it. For most women, foreplay is just as much mental as it is physical, and the thought of getting it on later will surely get you all excited. Plus, it’s the perfect opportunity for dirty talk—a flirty text exchange on the scheduled day will get you both hot by the time for the actual event. 

It can be a way to work around busy schedules 

We get it, trying to fit everything into 24 hours—a demanding job, chores, socialising with friends, ‘me time’, and prioritising sex with your partner can seem like too much. This is exactly why scheduling sex into your calendar can be life-changing. This way, both of you can pick a specific time and place when your schedules match and you will be more likely to stick to it. Scheduling will make sure the boring and busy things life throws at us don’t come in between our sex life.  

It improves communication and builds intimacy 

When both of you take out the time and effort to schedule sex, it shows that the relationship is a priority for you. It will make both of you feel loved and cared for, thus strengthening your bond. Also, scheduling sex requires both of you to be on the same page and communicate your needs and wants with each other. This will make you understand each other better and also lead to open, honest conversations outside of sex. A win-win, we think!