Here's how you can use your post-sex time to deepen intimacy

Whether it's a quickie or long sex sesh, after-care wind-down rituals should be a common practice between all sexually active couples. Whether the experience was sweet or kinky, these rituals help deepen emotional and physical bonds, leaving everyone feeling cared for and connected afterwards.

The purpose of aftercare is to create a safe and sensitive space through conversation, cuddling, or other intimate acts, to build trust and reinforce the vulnerability shared during sex. These rituals can foster communication, promote relaxation, and provide reassurance, helping partners feel valued and understood. Overall, they extend the connection beyond the sexual act, strengthening intimacy beyond the sexual act.

This is also a good time to talk about something that didn’t go right, because not everyone is a sex God, especially with someone new. It's okay to feel awkward at first, but avoiding the conversation isn’t. The more you communicate about what you enjoy, the better sex it will be for both of you. You can also use this moment to discuss whether you’re willing to experiment and get out of your comfort zone a little or if you'd prefer to change something, which are all signs of a healthy sexual relationship.

Acts of service 

Simple acts like helping them clean up, getting them water to drink, preparing a quick snack, or offering to give them a massage are all major green forest energy. They're also thoughtful acts that will help you build a deeper connection over time. 

Snuggle sesh

Laying close to your partner, caressing their skin, playing with their hair, and throwing in gentle kisses will easily give you +10 points. Cuddling helps us release the oxytocin hormone which can naturally reduce stress and increase intimacy. That’s why nothing beats resting in each other’s arms after all that cardio. This is also a great way to express genuine admiration for your partner’s body even after sex.

Shower together

Pillowtalk 

Drifting off to sleep 

This one is a natural response to sexual release for many people, but others are energised and want to talk after sex. If you’re someone who likes to fall asleep, be sure to communicate about this with your partner and perhaps find a compromise between long-winded conversation and instant snoring. If you fall asleep right away and your partner needs an emotional connection, they may feel disconnected. On the flip side, falling asleep with your partner might also be a sign you’re in a safe, comforted and caring space, and that this is all you need. 

Round two (or three)

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