Signs your situationship is never turning into a relationship

Today everyone is in a relationship. Well, sort of—friendships, friends with benefits, casual relationships, serious ones too, and then there’s the one that takes the cake—situationships. The truth about situationships is that many of us don’t realise we’re in one. Once you become aware, it often feels too late, leaving you trapped in an endless cycle of uncertainty.

The beginning of your arrangement sets the tone for your future with that person—whether it is going to last or not. And if you're unsure, then don't worry we’ve identified signs for you. Here are the signs that your situationship is never going to evolve into a relationship.

You’ve been in a situationship ever since you started seeing each other

It’s been three months, and your little situation hasn’t progressed. It’s almost as if it’s floating. Neither one of you has spoken about your current arrangement; it’s all small talk, and while there may be some physical intimacy, that’s all there is. No pre-planned meet-ups, no date nights—you’ve been in the grey ever since. Take it as a sign, it’s never happening!

What’s worse than actually being in a situationship is the constant need for validation and connection. It’s almost like an awkward dynamic where one person is always seeking more, while the other dodges defining the relationship at all. The constant need to ask is a sure sign that the relationship is never going to move forward.

The future isn’t part of your present

Unlike couples in healthy relationships, discussions about the future rarely arise in a situationship. Even the simplest future plans—like attending an event together, visiting each other's hometowns, or spending time together in a few months—indicate that they don’t see this lasting for long.

You barely see each other

When two people want a relationship to progress, they make an effort to meet as often as possible to strengthen their bond and connection. However, if you find yourselves hardly seeing each other or playing coy about meeting up, it’s a clear sign that things aren’t serious. This is your cue to either leave the arrangement altogether or go back to being friends.

They meet when they ‘want’ to, rather than when they can. Investing time and effort to see each other is what helps a relationship grow. In a situationship, meeting the other person often takes a backseat, almost like you’re a side option. When things get tough or they find themselves feeling particularly needy, they come to you—this indicates they only reach out when it’s convenient for them.

You’re constantly lost

Feeling confused, restless, and lost in a potential relationship is never worth it. A healthy and reassuring relationship is one where both partners feel secure together. When your partner hints at seeing other people, it can leave you feeling as if they have no interest in addressing your relationship concerns or easing your mind about your status, ultimately keeping you in the dark.

These are hard-hitting facts and signs that your situationship is akin to a dormant volcano—unlikely to erupt and destined to remain inactive. The best way forward is to part ways, maintaining love and respect for each other without the burden of a broken connection.

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