Lube isn't just to make you wetter—here's how to use it for heightened sensations

A lot of people believe that lube has one purpose and one purpose only—to smoothen things for people who can’t get naturally wet enough during sex. And although the primary objective is to make penetrative (vaginal or anal) sex smoother—to avoid injuries and reduce friction—lube can be quite a game-changer, if used to its full extent, both with a partner and alone. Adding just a few drops of lube to your erogenous zones can turn your orgasms into power-packed screams of pleasure. We're exaggerating for effect, but you see the point!

Now before we dive into the different kinds of lube and how it can be used to amp up your sex life, let us say that there is no right or wrong way to use this product. Like everything else related to sex, the way you use lube is based on your personal preferences. All we're doing is breaking down your options for you and enabling you to make an informed decision because not all lubes are the same. So, read on if you’re ready to get lubed up!  

First things first, what are the different kinds of lube?    

As the name suggests, the primary ingredient here is, you guessed it, water. These are lightweight, slippery (in the best way possible), and easy to rinse off once the fun comes to an end. Another reason to opt for water-based lubes is that they are very versatile—this means they can be used your silicone toys and latex condoms.

Now before you get too excited, you should know that there are a few downsides to using a water-based lube. The most important one being that they don’t stick around for long like some of the other kinds of lube. So it's great for when you’re having a quick quickie sessh, but not so much when you’re prepping for a full-blown steaming, toe-curling, multiple orgasms kind of round. For these, you might have to apply and re-apply the lube several times, especially if you’re prone to drying out. You could have your partner massage it in sensually or you can do it yourself, although it can get quite tiresome in the moment. 

Oil-based lube   

The biggest USP of oil-based lubes is their staying power. Once you’ve applied it, you don’t have to worry about reapplication. However, it’s not all good news. Because oil-based lubes don’t budge, they are considerably tougher to wash off. They may also leave a coating around your rectum or vagina which can then increase the risk of you contracting an infection down there. Eeks. Don’t worry though, not everyone has this problem. But if you haven’t tried oil-based lubes yet, follow the ‘less is more’ philosophy. Another important thing to remember about oil-based lubes is that they should never be used with latex condoms as they are known to disintegrate latex. So, weigh your options before opting for an oil-based lube.

Silicon-based lube   

If you are looking for a lube that is thicker than water-based ones but not as stubborn as oil, then a silicon-based lube might be the one for you. These are more slippery, don’t dry out easily, and can be used with latex condoms. However, before you invest in a silicone-based lube, know that they are not compatible with sex toys that might be made out of silicone and they can break down the material. So, if you’re looking for something to use during solo play, you might want to opt for one of the other two options. 

Now that you know about the different types of lube, here's everything to know about how to use lube, with both, partnered and solo sex.

On your naughty parts or sex toys

Let’s begin with the basics, shall we? Applying a few squirts of lube to your genitals can put you on the path of an orgasmic orgasm. Not only does it help increase wetness but also reduces friction during penetrative sex or sex with a toy. You can have your partner massage it directly onto your vulva before entering you or apply it to your sex toy, to maximise pleasure. Pro tip: Instead of directly applying it from the tube or bottle, warm it up in your hands first lube for a much better experience. If you haven’t used a lube before, this is a good place to start before experimenting with it. 

As steamy as shower or bathtub sex is, it’s also not everyone’s cup of tea, because not only is water a bad lubricant (who would think, right?) but it also washes away your natural juices. And this, as we all know, leads to some very uncomfortable sensations during penetration or when you’re trying to give yourself a good time. The solution? Lube! 

Do keep in mind though that a water-based lube is practically useless in this situation because it will just wash away. So unless you are using a toy made out of silicone, you might want to consider a silicone-based lube or an oil-based one if you’re comfortable with it and are having condomless sex with your partner or yourself.  

For a sensual massage  

If you thought that you could only use lube down there, think again. It has the potential to be a brilliant tool during foreplay as an aid in a sensual massage. You could have your partner massage it onto your breasts, on your thighs before going down on you or fingering you, or on your back while they kiss your neck from behind. Honestly, you can just have fun with this without being afraid to get a little creative. And if you want to take things to another level, invest in a warming lube. This heats up when it comes in contact with the body and it has the potential to give you a memorable, hotter-than-ever climax. 

On your hands   

Applying some lube on your hand before indulging in some partnered or solo hand play, will take your foreplay game three notches up. Just a few drops on your fingertips can go a long way when grazed along sensitive areas of your vagina. The trick is to not be in a rush to get to the finish line. Instead, start slow at first, to enjoy each sensation mindfully, and then gradually build up momentum. This is truly a game-changer. 

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