Love crazy spontaneous sex with your boo? Bookmark these tips!

We won’t deny the fact that scheduling sex has its perks, however, it can get a bit monotonous. If you’re having sex with the same person, you can easily map out the whole session in your head, from what foreplay moves your partner will use to which position you will do it in not long before you’re diving head-first into a sex rut. The solution? Putting in more effort to be spontaneous in bed. 

Now, when we say this, we don’t mean throwing out your sex schedule. We mean going over and above it to either surprise your partner in nothing but a lingerie set or plan some quirky sex games. Read on to know how you can dial up the spontaneity quotient in your sex life and you will see the orgasmic benefits almost instantly. 

Surprise your partner

Nothing says spontaneous sex like a steamy surprise. You could decorate the bedroom with petals, put on some soothing music, and light a few candles, while you wait—either naked or in a sexy lingerie set—for your partner to get home. If you don’t have the time to set up, opt for something as simple as jumping into the shower when they’re in there. Or you could surprise them with a full-blown makeout session while you are in the middle of a conversation. We all know where that will lead *wink, wink*.  

Embrace the thrill of public places  

Okay, before we get 3,000 angry emojis in our comments section, we would like to clarify that we don’t mean doing them in a public place where everyone can see. That might land you in some serious trouble. We are talking about places where there is a slight chance you may get caught. The thrill of doing it in a public place hits differently, and this factor acts as a pleasure catalyst. But if you don’t have enough time or space, don’t fret. You can just spend time feeling each other up to build anticipation, and then finish the romp session at home.

For instance, a quickie in your car (while it’s parked in a corner of a parking lot or empty lane) right before you have to meet some friends for dinner. Or on your building’s terrace in the middle of the night. Or going to third base in a dark and empty theatre. 

Initiate a sexting conversation   

Picture this: you and your partner are both having a tedious day at work, and you want to do something to add some spice to your day. What better than spontaneously initiating a sexting conversation? The aim is to turn your partner on and build so much anticipation that they have to come home and pin you to the bed. Start by telling them what you want them to do to you. You can also send them images of yourself to tease them and use your experiences to build tension. 

One way to dial up the spontaneity quotient in the bedroom is by waking up your partner in the middle of the night with some orgasmic oral sex. It’s totally unexpected. This is also a brilliant way to end a sex rut and catch your partner off guard. However, if you’re planning to do this, just make sure you don’t fall asleep too or wake up in the middle of the night to wake them up. Doing this every few weeks will elevate your sex life, and how! 

Turn it into a game   

Take a page out of Joey Tribianni’s book and suggest a game of strip UNO, Monopoly, or LUDO. This is not only spontaneous but will allow you to tease each other for some time. Your competitive nature will refuse to give in, and that will make the sex so much better. 

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