How to be a confident sex goddess in bed

Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City might've been the most coveted character, in terms of fashion and romantic mishaps. But there's no denying that Samantha Jones's spunk and candour is what drives the show. And truth be told, we'd blindly rely on Jones for any advice related to sex. Her savage responses paired with an empowered spirit make her the goddess of sexual confidence. But here's the thing about confidence, it can easily dip in stressful situations, which can cool off the sizzle in the sheets, turning what should be a pleasurable fest into a parade of worry. But fear not! Here’s your practical guide, filled with the hottest tips, to help you fan the flames of confidence and reclaim the thrill in the bedroom.

Set the scene

Ensure your bedroom is a comfortable oasis that mirrors your unique style; opt for soft, seductive lighting like candlelight for a sensual, confidence-boosting ambience. This personalised retreat will not only reflect your personality but also enhance your comfort and assurance, making every moment more intimate and empowering.

Power lingerie

Slip into a seductive lacy number or sultry silk that feels like a second skin; choose pieces that play with your curves. Wearing what you like, is an easy route to sexual confidence; your lingerie is what drives the mood.

Pillow talk

Speak up about what turns you on. Just like in those steamy scenes from Bridgerton, communication is key; sharing your likes not only makes the moment hotter but also ensures you both are on the same page. Think of it as co-writing your sultry storyline, which means every shared desire increases mutual understanding, ultimately making you feel more empowered and connected. So, voice your pleasure—the louder, the better *wink*.

Pose with purpose

Find a pose that screams confidence, like a bold hands-on-hip stance or a laid-back, enticing sprawl; your posture shapes your attitude. Stand tall or lounge luxuriously and let the confidence seep in. Your body language sets the stage for your mind to follow, empowering you in moments of intimacy.

Explore solo

Dive into a journey of self-discovery, taking the solo route to understand your deepest desires. By exploring your own body and learning what turns you on, you can confidently guide your partner, turning your bedroom into a den of pleasure. It's about knowing your rhythm and your touch and embracing the thrill of your sensuality. So, go ahead and set the stage for some quality time with yourself that empowers and embraces you.

Educate yourself

Knowledge is power. Understanding your body’s responses and educating yourself on sexual wellness can greatly boost your confidence. This might include reading books, attending workshops, following sexual health creators, or even talking to a professional.

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