Everything you need to know about dating a Scorpio woman

So you're crushing on a Scorpio. No surprise there! These baddies are a special type of woman. She will lure you in with her captivating eyes and emotional depth. It’s hard not to feel like you’re in a private world with her—there’s something mysterious about her love.

A Scorpio woman has the ability to peel away your soul when no one is looking. For that reason, she is addictive. She’ll make you want to run away with her, and that’s exactly why this femme fatale has the reputation of being trouble. A woman so remarkable has the ability to be dangerous. She’ll make you have wild thoughts, like giving up the life you’ve grown accustomed to or even more challenging, coming out to your parents.

Tread carefully—she’s a bombshell. And before you do anything out of the norm, it’s important that you make sure that you two are on the same page. In traditional astrology, Scorpio is ruled by the planet Mars, which gives a passionate flare to the way that she approaches life. But the issue with her Mars-ruled energy is that it’s expressed through the waters of her Scorpio energy. Mars tends to like things hot and fiery, but submerged in her waters, it's unable to fully express itself. This makes her a silent storm. Be careful not to provoke her, because she will boil over.

The Scorpio Basics

Birthday: October 23-November 21

Element: Water

Modality: Fixed

Ruler: Mars (traditional) and Pluto (modern)

Symbol: The scorpion

Tarot card: Death

Keywords: Deep, strong, mysterious, alluring, moody, intense

Love anthem: "telepatía" by Kali Uchís

Famous Scorpio women: Anne Hathaway, Katy Perry, Aishwarya Rai, Gabrielle Union, Ciara, Tracee Ellis Ross, Lorde, Rachel McAdams, Willow Smith, Kendall Jenner, Lorde, Winona Ryder, Katy Perry, Duckie Thot, Tilda Swinton, Julia Roberts, SZA, Emma Stone

A Scorpio Woman's Best Traits

A Scorpio woman’s best trait is how deep her love goes. Now, I will never say that all Scorpios are obsessive. But it's worth recognizing that when a Scorpio woman loves someone, it feels all-consuming. She wants to know you in a world of people who fear intimacy. When she's invested, she’ll learn about your quirks, your imperfections, and why you express yourself the way you do. She does all this because to her, loving someone is wanting to know them—all of them.

Scorpio women sometimes struggle with relinquishing control, but she is adventurous and risk-taking with the right person. She'd love to lose herself with a lover during a sunrise road trip up the mountainside or a late-night beach session under the Moon. To be with a Scorpio woman as a friend or lover is to surround yourself with someone defined by depth. A passionate and curious explorer. A shy hedonist.

A Scorpio Woman's Worst Traits

Sometimes Scorpio women are their own worst enemies, and people recognize that about them—sorry, girls. Scorpio is one of the most powerful signs in the zodiac. Whether they identify as traditionally ruled by Mars or a child of Pluto (their modern ruler), Scorpio’s ruling planet can prompt a story of transformation through passion. But when Scorpio women enter a state of being indifferent, still, and unwilling to change, that is uninspiring. What's even worse is when she enters a form of self-identifying as a resentful victim because of her choices. Scorpio women have to be the bad guy sometimes, and that’s okay. It’s better to set boundaries and tell people “no” than to become petty and passive-aggressive.

But when a Scorpio woman steps into her truth, she becomes the most exciting person in the room. Her aura radiates confidence and her essence becomes unforgettable. Scorpio women must avoid believing they are too much, too intense, or overwhelming. When she focuses on being her authentic self, she minimizes the likelihood of the expression of her worst traits.

A Scorpio Woman's Personality Traits

The most important thing to know about Scorpio is that as chill as they seem, they are ruled by Mars, the planet of war. As calm, cool, and collected as they appear, you should never assume there’s a dull moment in their head. The lore surrounding Scorpio suggests that beneath their surface is a calculating and inquisitive mind. Scorpio’s stillness is temporary. The moment a reason to become curious arises, they pursue it.

Aside from the occasional stints of detective behavior, Scorpios are stereotypically private. If they're dating multiple people, you’ll probably never pick up on any clues unless they go out of their way to make it obvious. Your best move is not to assume you know everything about a Scorpio. You can spend your whole life peeling back their layers.

Scorpio Compatibility: A Scorpio Woman's Best Matches

Scorpio and Taurus

Scorpio's opposite on the zodiac is Taurus, and astrologically, opposites attract! These two are different but in ways that complement each other and help each other grow.

Scorpio and Cancer

When two signs share an element, they "speak the same language," emotionally. That's definitely true for water signs Scorpio and Cancer.

Scorpio and Virgo

Scorpio women spend a significant amount of time trying to figure out the world and the people in it. A Virgo has the ability to calmly and bluntly sum things up and help a Scorpio talk about her feelings. They're a match made in the stars!

Scorpio and Scorpio

What's better than one Scorpio? Two Scorpios! A Scorpio/Scorpio couple is a match made in heaven... or hell, depending on if they like you or not.

Scorpio and Capricorn

Earth and water signs tend to mesh well—just think of a garden!—and that's especially true for Scorpio and Capricorn. Capricorn can help keep Scorpio on track, while Scorpio can help Capricorn open up.

Scorpio and Pisces

And if a Scorpio seeks a romance that will inspire them and give them reasons to dream, a Pisces will offer exactly that. The two of them will get lost in each other’s minds and find themselves in a world of imagination.

Scorpio Compatibility: A Scorpio Woman's Worst Matches

Scorpio and Aries

Aries and Scorpio share a traditional ruler—Mars, the planet of war and motivation—and yet they could not be more different. Aries are doers and they tend to take on life as it happens, while Scorpio is a very secretive and calculating sign. Aries may feel as though Scorpio is sneaky, and Scorpio can quickly feel overwhelmed by Aries’ quick-footed action.

Scorpio and Gemini

Gemini is another quick-thinking mover-shaker that leaves Scorpio wondering what the truth is. Geminis can be a lot of fun, but Scorpio can struggle to understand their mutability and instead find them inconsistent or even flaky.

Scorpio and Leo

Scorpio and Leo only have one thing in common: They're both incredibly stubborn! These two are bound to butt heads, particularly because Leo craves the spotlight and Scorpio loves the shadows.

Scorpio and Libra

Another air sign, Libra, is also a no-go for Scorpio. Gemini and Libra have a natural ability to keep it moving, and Scorpio might feel left behind by these signs.

Scorpio and Sagittarius

Scorpio and Sagittarius are side-by-side in the zodiac, and this often lends a bickering, sibling-like energy to a connection. This can work for a friendship (or a literal familial relationship), but it's not great for a romance.

Scorpio and Aquarius

Like Scorpio and Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius have basically nothing in common except for their hard-headed nature. When it comes to an argument, both believe they're 100% in the right. These two have a hard time understanding each other's POV, which is pretty necessary in a relationship!

Sex with a Scorpio Woman

Sex with a Scorpio is romantic to say the least. They have the power to erase your thoughts and devour you. A Scorpio will want to learn you, inside out. They’ll take notice of your nuances and study your sexual expression. Scorpio is sensual, capturing your mind with their body and your heart with their words.

Once you gain their trust, you’ll find that they can be quite submissive. Wishing to be indulged by you, they will mold to your desires. It's best not to rush sex with a Scorpio: If you move too fast, then they’ll lose interest. They want soulful connections, so make them feel like time does not exist.

A Scorpio Woman's Romantic Relationships

Oh, love, there are layers to how a Scorpio shows their care. Scorpio loves love. It lights them up and gives them a sense of meaning. When they meet someone who captivates them, they become infatuated. And when Scorpio women believe they truly know a person, they begin to enter their loving mode. Once they are in a caring manner, there is no turning them off. They may not be the first to express their love; however, they feel and think they are in love. For them, infatuation starts with daydreams and imagination. They take time to imagine how you two would get along and what it would look like to be together. Would you like them? Would your friends like them? Would your friends and their friends get along—what about family?

If you make it past the imagination stage by showing genuine interest in them, a little game plays off in their head. A Scorpio woman may become confused about whether you like her if she lacks confidence in herself, or proceeds with caution if she is aware of her value. For a Scorpio woman, her top priority is feeling a sense of security, so don’t be surprised if she asks to see your credit score! Loving her becomes pretty simple once she believes you will be a worthy partner. She looks forward to chill dates, eating tons of food, staycations, vacations, and cuddles. In fact, Scorpio women are very cute, contrary to their dark stereotype.

A First Date with a Scorpio Woman

The human embodiment of the Scorpio archetype would want to go on a private and secluded date. But in the real world, we live during a time when true crime shows are more popular than ever. So maybe don’t do that! As romantic as looking at the stars in the middle of a cornfield sounds, you might risk scaring off your Scorpio crush.

Sure, Scorpios may be intimidating, but they’re also adorable, which tends to get them in trouble! Show your Scorpio lover that you are capable of, and I don’t know, minimizing your creep factor while also being strategic. Check out cool tea rooms in your area or something unlikely to be popular. Scorpios appreciate the rarity, which will give them a reason to search for outfits with their friends. Bonus points if you check customer traffic time before you set a date, because why go on a date when it’s ridiculously crowded?

A Scorpio Woman's Friendships

Friendship comes with time, and for Scorpio women, it starts with formalities. You may have met her through work, business, or a networking event. Chances are she might not be thinking of you as a future close friend, much less a romantic partner—unless something about you has inspired her to start plotting. During acquaintanceship, Scorpio women show the content of their character and make it clear that they are formidable partners. Whether you decide to pursue friendship or romance with them, or keep it professional at work, is entirely up to the two of you.

If you become closer to a Scorpio woman, like real close, you’ll see she’s a massive softie under a severe demeanor. Sure, you might have caught her sporting red bottoms, a YSL tote bag, and an all-black ensemble—but behind her appearance, she does care deeply. With her friends, she is silly, bubbly, and playful. It is in private that her natural beauty begins to shine through. If you can make it within the Scorpio woman’s inner circle, then awesome. But if case you end up falling into the role of her community member, then consider yourself lucky, too. Even if you’re not close to her, she’ll still show up for you! She is resourceful and knowledgeable and can give excellent feedback if you’re open to it!

A Scorpio Woman at Work

Please give this woman a sponsorship with Nike because chile—she will do it. The Scorpio woman’s motto is “just do it” because if she’s interested in something, she’ll make it happen. She does not need to question herself or wonder if she is making a mistake. The presence of those questions may be indicative that she should have a conversation with her intuition. Scorpio women ultimately make sense of things as they hear them; never believe that she is incapable of making sense of the unknown. Even when trekking through the darkness, her sense of awareness helps her through. She works well under pressure for that reason. She might even thrive under pressure!

The one hang-up she should keep in mind is to avoid jumping to conclusions or moving too quickly through projects. She’s most successful when she is thorough, strategic, and confident in her work. When she taps into her willpower, her discipline and sense of motivation can make her a trailblazer within her field. The only caveat is if she does not believe in the work that she is doing, then she’ll overthink the process. Her fears will get the best of her, and she falls into an analysis paralysis—aka overthinking.

All About Scorpio Women

It's understandable if you feel unsure or intimidating about dating a Scorpio woman. Depending on when you catch them, they can literally change your life. Scorpio women are amazing to have by your side, but if you're not prepared, their energy can feel burdensome.

Scorpio energy is all about change, so don't be surprised if you fall out of contact with a Scorpio, see her again, and feel like she's become a totally different person. If you encounter a Scorpio when she is undergoing the process of metamorphosis, you’ll witness her at her most vulnerable. During this storm, she seeks shelter, not affection. A Scorpio in the process of change can appear spiteful or volcanic. At its worst, Scorpio energy can be overwhelming and self-destructive. If you're interested in a Scorpio, it's best to proceed with caution and assess what type of vibe she's giving off. Is she still, or melting like ice?She does appreciate loyalty, so show your allegiance and you’ll earn trust.

Scorpio women are no stranger to needing time alone, and their fixed sign energy can make them moody at times. If they don't get time to recharge, they can become exhausted or overwhelmed. Thankfully, they tend to be pretty self-aware and know when they need to turn off their phone and be by themselves. Don't be offended if a Scorpio doesn't want to see you three days in a row, or if she goes silent for a weekend. If you're interested in inviting a Scorpio woman in your life, do so with the knowledge that she will be close to you when she's around, and doing her own thing when she's not.

Although Scorpio's traditional ruler is Mars, Scorpio’s modern ruler is Pluto, the farthest-known planet from the Sun within our galaxy. Similar to Pluto, there is a certain darkness to Scorpio. A kind of darkness that cannot be concealed with makeup or covered up by glitter. It looms in Scorpio’s essence, leaving an aura of temptation. That darkness is exactly what makes Scorpio women so interesting. They can seem distant and unattainable—and intriguing and irresistible.

In fact, a Scorpio is a lot like a cousin who after years of family events, has learned when to leave early and how to shut up. You might not notice she's leaving, but you'll miss her quiet presence. Scorpios spend the early stages of life naive and inquisitive about the world. In fact, this sign is often associated with psychologists and detectives—so don't try to hide anything from a Scorpio woman, because she will find out. In fact, she probably already knows.

With experience and research, Scorpios have learned to move at their own pace instead of bending over backwards for others. When a Scorpio woman prioritizes her growth, she's able to create healthy boundaries. Don't try to convince her to do things your way—she knows what works for her, and she's sticking to it.

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