Okay, show of hands. Who here feels that giving a hand job is one of the most daunting oral sex acts? Think about it—unlike a blow job, this is something most penis owners have indulged in by themselves since they were teenagers. They know exactly what they like and need when it comes to a hand job. They have it down pat. And there you are, trying your hardest (pun intended) to get them closer to a climax before you can move on to the final act of the night. Before you know it, you’ve given up and moved on. But this is a mistake.
A handjob may not be the main course, but it’s a pretty good appetiser. One that you don’t want to miss out on if your goal is to pleasure your partner senseless. And if your hand is still up from the question we asked above, you’re in luck. We’ve curated a guide to giving a hand job that your partner won’t forget. Read on!
Focus on their entire length
Yes, the head is highly sensitive, but so is the shaft. A penis typically has thousands of nerve endings just waiting to be pleasured and stimulated. So, while the tip is a good place to start, focus on the penis’ entire length. The reaction you’ll get from your partner won’t disappoint.
Another thing to remember is to not be too delicate with your partner’s joystick. A lot of people assume that the penis is extremely fragile and tend not to apply any pressure at all. Don’t do that; it can withstand more than you think. Of course, we don’t mean squeeze or go full ham with the bending and twisting, but you can have a firm grip without fear.
Find a comfortable position
If you aim to blow your partner’s mind (and his nether regions), find a comfortable position first. This is primarily to keep you from bending his penis in 50 different directions, eventually leading to a sex injury that is too embarrassing to explain. While there are numerous positions you could try, the ideal one to deliver hand jobs is when the penis owner is sitting or lying on their back with their legs outstretched. This position might be basic, but it’s safe, gives you full access, and gives you the freedom to let your lips roam their body. Remember, even the most vanilla positions can be steaming hot if you approach them creatively.
Use lube
Turn a good handjob into one that leaves your partner moaning and groaning by using a little lube. This slimy semi-liquid acts as a pleasure catalyst. It allows you to vary your hand job speed and pressure without worrying about friction burns or chafing.
There are three types of lube—water, oil, and silicone. Water is lightweight and easy to wash off, but it doesn’t stick around. Oil has good staying power but doesn’t wash off easily and doesn’t play well with latex condoms. Silicone, on the other hand, is thicker than water-based ones but not as rigid as oil. It’s slippery enough and lasts for as long as you need. For a hand job, silicone is the most ideal option.
Edge him
Don’t just get in there and pump like your life depends on it. The key to giving an orgasmic hand job is to tease your partner by starting slow and gradually building it up. Use both your hands and focus on varying the speed and pressure to find a rhythm that gets him moaning and groaning. You may have to do a little trial and error, but you’ll find the sweet spot. When he is close to bursting, slow it down. Give him a few seconds of downtime, and then build it up again. Repeat this twice or three times (not more; don’t overdo it) until you’re ready to have him climax. The beauty of a handjob is that you are in the driver’s seat; embrace it. When you finally let him cross the finish line, you’ll see how edging doubles the pleasure your partner receives from your hand.
Mix it up, but keep it simple
Let’s be real for a minute. Chances are that your partner is used to getting themselves off with a pretty straightforward motion. And they know their bodies best, right? So, while giving a hand job, remember to keep it simple. Ask your partner what they like, and do just that. You don’t need any of the frills and bells. You can and should mix your moves up, but this means varying speed and pressure. You could do a few different things, like cupping the base of the shaft and moving upwards with a slight twisting move. But don’t pull away each time and start over; this would negate the purpose.
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