19 people reveal their partners’ (endearing, hilarious) beige flags

While you may have successfully sussed out your partner’s green flags by the third date (and discovered your ex’s red flags a little too late), there’s an in-between point in every relationship when your significant other just casually reveals something, well, unique. Maybe it’s the fact that they sleep in their gym clothes before a morning workout, or set a timer to sleep instead of an actual alarm.

These weird/endearing/sometimes-cute quirks, also known as beige flags, aren’t necessarily deal breakers, but they’re probably not the clincher either. They’re neutral, unproblematic traits or habits that might make you pause (or giggle, even) without threatening the state of your relationship beyond, like, the occasional eye roll. In fact, most of the time, their beige flag will evoke nothing more than a shrug and the passing thought, Oh, that again? You might even get used to a specific beige flag until it becomes something you love about them—a thing that’s very them, if you will.

“When people talk about flags, they’re really engaging in pattern recognition. A red flag is an observed behavior that leads to negative consequences, and a green flag [leads to] positive consequences,” says relationship expert Cat Hoggard Wagley. “A beige flag is more of a personal thing that you think is odd, but not a reason you wouldn’t move forward with getting to know someone.”

Still don’t get it? Here are 18 beige flag examples we sourced from readers that prove your partner’s not the *only* lovable freak out there.

“Her sneeze is so loud and obnoxious it’s like a car bomb went off, but only in private. In public, she sneezes like a dainty little girl.” —Richard, 33

“My boyfriend’s beige flag is that he’s obsessed with being Italian. I don’t think a day has gone by where something about Italy or being Italian hasn’t been mentioned (we are both from New Jersey).” —Gabby, 24*

“He yawns excessively and uncontrollably in the morning. He could sleep for four days straight, and would still wake up and yawn seven times in 40 seconds." —Amanda, 29*

“My boyfriend is 26 years old but drinks White Claws like a co-ed. Saturday night? ‘Time to crack open a White Claw.’ Dinner out? He’ll ‘take the White Claw.’ Hot day? ‘Nothing more refreshing than a White Claw.’” —Meg, 28

“Every time we’re on a plane, my boyfriend will order apple juice but only when we’re on planes.” —Nicole, 26

“He plays video games…like, on the computer.” —Gina, 28

“She eats straight ketchup, like, with a spoon.” —Bridget, 22

“My boyfriend (whose feet are double the size of mine) steals my socks to wear as no-show socks.” —Mandy, 21

“He doesn’t like wheeling a suitcase, so he holds it by the top handle instead and carries it…” —Michela, 28

“My fiancé wears tube socks pulled basically all the way up when he works out.”
—Janie, 28

“My boyfriend really loves to analyze the smell and flavor profiles of everything he eats. He’ll sniff or taste something, pause for a sec before speaking, and describe what stands out to him. Literally almost every time.” —Vee, 29

“She literally puts my cum on her sunburns…all the time. She swears it works.” —Trey, 23

“My boyfriend has to have a white noise machine on anytime he’s in his room [not just when he’s sleeping].” —Aly, 26

“He takes multiple baths a day...like two or three.” —Emma, 27

“My fiancée does not use condiments, sauce, or dressing at all. She eats her salad dry.” —Mark, 24

“My partner makes their hyperfixations personality traits.Tiny homes? Built one. Coding? Turned it into a career.” —Rachel, 27

“My boyfriend refuses to get social media but will send me videos or memes from Reddit five weeks after I first saw them on Instagram or TikTok. He also listens to audiobooks while he deadlifts.” —Sophia, 28

“He loves Frappucinos from Starbucks but otherwise won’t drink coffee. He got the new mint one today.” —Camila, 27

“[My partner] always asks the table next to us what they ordered.…” —Kaylon, 25

 

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